No matter what color, race, nationality, religion, cultural group, economic class, social class, height, type of person, orientation, or anything else someone will hate you for it. Let that sink in for a second, even if you could magically change one of those things to another for yourself, people would still hate you for that aspect of yourself. People will still hate your guts no matter what. The game is rigged. You lose.
NAR: no matter what you do, no matter how awesome you are, no matter how amazingly beautiful of handsome you look, no matter how generous and kind you are to others there will always be people bitching about you(edited)
Responder 1: I’ve heard “Real. Known. Free of haters. Pick two.”
NAR: I think people try to sacrifice Real or Known to avoid it, but they’re never really free of the haters. they just have fewer vocal ones.
NAR: you can be Buddha or Jesus himself and people will still bitch about you
NAR: this plugs back into my earlier comment. people think “if I stop doing X, people will like me” or “if I stop offending group Y, then they’ll be kinder to me” except it’s often the case that the people who don’t do X aren’t doing any better than the group doing X and the group not offending Y aren’t doing any better than the group offending Y.
Responder 1: this connects with the mentality of not saying anything in order to not be disliked
NAR: if you say nothing. they still hate you.
not if your rationality check says that the people following these forced customs aren’t being rewarded for it, that is.
[Further conversation which gets into discussing juvenile insults in youtube comments]
NAR: you can try really hard to be kurt cobain, but then you’re going to get addicted to heroin and your head blasted through by a shotgun
[Mention of things looking different from different perspectives]
Responder 1: Yes! a fantastic example